Drawing on a lifetime’s experience as an anthropologist, David F. Lancy takes us on a journey across the globe to show how children are raised differently in different cultures.
“I’m giving this to all the first-time parents I know.” Michael Erard, author of Babel No More
Why in some parts of the world do parents rarely play with their babies and never with toddlers? Why in some cultures are children not fully recognized as individuals until they are older? How are routine habits of etiquette and hygiene taught – or not – to children in other societies?
David F. Lancy takes the reader on a journey across the globe to show how children are raised differently in different cultures. Intriguing, and sometimes shocking, his discoveries demonstrate that our ideas about children are recent, untested, and often contrast starkly with those in other parts of the world. Lancy argues that we are, by historical standards, guilty of over-parenting, of micro-managing our children’s lives. As I read, I learned that parents aren’t necessarily equipped to be teachers, but they can practice thoughtful good behavior that their children will want to emulate.
My main take-a ways of the book include:
- Children prefer to learn on their own initiative while parents are seen as role-models.
- Children who are able to participate freely becomes an important basis for learning.
- Children want to learn but become reluctant when it is forced upon them.
- Reading to children at an early age is important, and it’s even more important to allow children to pick their own reading material as they become independent readers.
- Family dinners are only enhanced through children’s narrative fluency and interactions with the family.
- Children’s responsibility comes about gradually often by the want to help out their care-givers through a community effort within the household.
- When we raise children to only be individuals, we are losing sight that we, as humans, need social skills and interactions to live successfully in the community.
Whether or not you agree with Lancy, his studies on different cultures are fascinating and bring up many questions as to how we raise children in different cultures. Right or wrong, the way we parent affects the outcome of the child. Parental support means working with our child’s teachers, letting children love learning as they become independent in their studies, and model good social behavior and good will to others were my favorite subjects addressed in this book. That, in itself, was worth the read.
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