Product Review:  Baby Tears Memorial Necklace (Ruby Birthsone) *Grieving Support*

Grieving Support

Baby Tears

We never heard your first tiny cry,

never wiped the teardrops from your eyes.

And though our hearts grieve, and we are bereft

we carry your teardrops, they are all we have left…

We carry them with us, tucked next to our heart

your memory with us always, we are never apart.

-Author Unknown

As I was going into my second trimester with my second pregnancy, I bought a really cute baby book because I knew I had to get a head start with the second baby.  I didn’t want Brooke to have all these really cool keepsakes and baby #2 feel neglected.  I’m a middle child and I know that sometimes the first baby gets more pictures and keepsakes and I did not want to do that to little ‘Brie’ or ‘Beck’ (yes, we had names picked out…we like the B names, I guess!).  I started on many of the book’s pages: family history, the baby’s first ultrasound, our first Christmas picture with Brooke and her sibling information, all of it.  When I miscarried, I didn’t know what to do with myself.  All these baby items I had lying around, Brooke had outgrown and I started donating like crazy.  However, there staring at me was this half filled out baby book.  I hated it for a long time.  Then months later something happened.  I began to write.  I wrote a letter to Angel Baby B and I made the book into a memorial book.  I wrote about all of it, being at the dr’s office waiting for that terrible ultrasound and seeing a perfectly formed fetus…hands, feet, etc, laying there softly not moving.  I was by myself in the room (Bob was home with Brooke and my family lives far away) and could not look away at the glaring sight of that baby.  The baby was peaceful, quiet, but gone.  I was left alone for a moment just numb.  The months following included a D&C and just general haziness.  I don’t know what happened from that moment until I created the Momma’s Bacon blog on the year of the miscarriage anniversary, but that memorial book has been added to with a letter each year and this year I’m adding the Baby Tears necklace with another letter to B about my life now.  I’ve never thought about what I am going to do with it, but maybe Brooke will want to read it someday when she is an adult.  Everyone copes differently; it’s not right or wrong.  This is my coping and this is my history with B.  No one has to understand or agree, but if this touches or helps anyone out there, I would love to know that.

Baby Tears Memorial Necklace is a tiny sterling teardrop that hangs lightly from a swarovski crystal in a birthstone color on an 18″ sterling box chain.  It is a symbolic piece of tears cried of losing a little one and baby tears we would never wipe away.  Kimberly, owner and creator of Le Belle Dame, is such a sweet gentle soul and her entire website is dedicated to supporting the spirit, including pet memorial gifts.  I don’t know her, but I love her.  She lovingly created this necklace as symbolic tears of compassion we share for all mothers who know this sadness.  I am honored to share this memorial necklace in B’s box and the poem I included above comes with the necklace as a perfect example of words not easily expressed being put into a poem that helps me understand and….feel better.

Note:  First Birthstone Free.  More options can be added at an additional cost.

Special Message from Momma’s Bacon:  I wrote these three grieving support posts on miscarriage months ago to include on my blog on my anniversary of my miscarriage and decided to continue and follow through to have them go live.  These posts are in no way related to the topic of the Newton Massacre at the Sandy Hook Elementary school that tragically happened on Friday.  I can not begin to imagine the sadness these families who lost their loved ones are feeling.  I mourn with the rest of our country and continue to hold my child and family close as each day is a precious gift that can be taken from us without a moment’s notice.  Rest in Peace.

Baby Tears Memorial Necklace (Ruby Birthsone) *Grieving Support*

www.LaBelleDame.com

List Price: $ 24.00